Rant Time: Materialism

As much as I have lived the urban hip-hop street life I have never quite understood that culture’s obsession with materialistic concerns. I have no desire to be dripping in diamonds, or gold. I much prefer the labels of my designer clothes to be on the inside rather than plastered ostentatiously on the front. I…

The Sub’s Side: On Reactions

Reactions to situations can be interesting when you examine them. I have a particular reaction to threats in my relationship with my husband that in fact is not a bad one. Both of us benefit from it tremendously. We didn’t always realize that this is my natural reaction. It took many years of being together…

BDSM: My Journey

I originally wrote this story almost one year ago in the aftermath of some pretty tumultuous events, though it seems like a lifetime ago. It was never intended for publication, it was merely a way for me to make sense of the craziness that my life had become at that point. This is not in…

The Sub’s Side: Working It Out

My husband, who I refer to as Daddy, and I had a dying marriage. We hit rock bottom at one point but we managed to revive our relationship to the point that it’s now better than it ever was. The fact is that relationships are hard work and are constantly changing. They require both partners…

BDSM: Sub-space and Dom-flow

So I happened across an interesting article recently (this one) concerning the psychology of BDSM and the effects on it’s practitioners. It certainly got me to thinking about my experiences with the altered state known among the initiated as sub-space.  As a long-time freak daddy with experience on both sides of the D/S slash, I’ve…

The Sub’s Side: Adventures in Squirting…

My first time squirting would be something forgotten for years. I was 21 the first time it happened. Squirting was something I knew nothing about and this first time would be one of those times that it just kind of happened. While riding my boyfriend one night I got to the point of orgasm. I…

Tasting Notes: Fonseca Delicia

So I’m back with yet another Cuban cigar review. I know it’s been all freaky-sex, all the time around here lately, but the reality is, I don’t smoke many cigars during the winter in Canada. Now that we are firmly into the spring, I can justify stepping out for a good forty-five minute herf without…

A Punishing Load: #MasturbationMonday

This particular post is really just another chapter in the on-going saga of our d/s relationship. Most pertinently and fittingly, this chapter takes off where the (true)story-line of my first #MasturbationMonday post left off… So some-how through a series of extenuating circumstances, I found myself the unwilling subject of chastity for a full forty-eight hours;…

BDSM: On Maintenance Spankings

So if you have any exposure to the BDSM lifestyle you will be familiar with spankings. As a Daddy, discipline in the form of physical chastisement plays an integral role in my dynamic. But of course impact-play for this Daddy, is never employed as a punishment, when your partner is a masochist, it becomes a…

The Sub’s Side: Mommy’s Back-story

This is the story of how I found my place in the BDSM life-style.  Some may share very similar experiences to mine and some may be surprised by parts of my journey. I was only 15 when I first lost my virginity.  I dated the boy for 7 months, which seemed like a lifetime.  I…