BDSM: DDLG and MDLB Dynamics

I have to admit that when I reflect upon the complexities of the over-arching BDSM meta-dynamic that I share with my wife it can get a bit hard to make sense of. Perhaps it’s easiest to start with our titles and work from there; she is Mommy, I am Daddy…

But what does that even mean? In the context of contemporary BDSM culture these titles refer to a sub-set of D/S players that incorporate some level of age-play and nurturing under the Caregiver/Little umbrella. The gendered-subterms in current use are DDLG(Daddy Dom/Little Girl) and MDLB(Mommy Dom/Little Boy) but obviously, these abbreviations can be tailored to a non-heterosexual relationship and less obviously several female and non-binary identifying Doms opt for a title of Daddy.

So what is a CG/L dynamic all about. Each dynamic is individual so perhaps I can use our own example to illustrate some of these concepts which of course occur on a continuum. Mommy and I are both switches so it adds a bit of confusion, I’ll try to approach the roles separately though for the sake of clarity. As her Daddy Dom, I provide a nurturing and guiding hand to my sub, tempering strict behavioural discipline with wisdom, this includes physical discipline in the form of spankings, or lashings with a strap, ruler, paddle etc. Sex is not necessarily part of CG/L dynamics, though our particular flavour of play leads there every-time…The flipside of that is how the submissive part of me presents as a Little-Boy, while CG/L can include full-on ABDL(Adult Baby Diaper Lover) players, my little age isn’t quite that young. My Mommy nutures and supports me by providing for my financial needs but also the needs of my soul, I suckle from her breastmilk daily while she gives me hugs and cuddles. She also provide the harsh discipline I sometimes crave in the form of spankings and ball-torture…

While all of this seems sweet, our dynamic does include the elements of sado-masochism and rough primal sex, which does provide an exhilarating contrast to the overall feel of a scene that starts-out tender and ends up nowhere close to that. The possible permutations of specific CG/L dynamics are near endless and our example isn’t close to typical but hopefully you won’t be lost when you are faced with alphabet soup kink-jargon like CGL, ABDL, DDLG or MDLB

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