BDSM: Age Matters

If you’ve any familiarity with my writing, you’ll notice that I do not shy away from controversial opinions. Yet I do not espouse these positions simply for the sake of generating attention or from a place of prejudice, I formulate my opinions over the course of many years, reflecting on my personal experience and observations…

BDSM: Bio-hacking Your Relationship

As crazy as it’s going to sound, if I were ever to give a TED talk, it would probably be on this subject. I certainly don’t discount the possibility that at some point in the future, I might in-fact give such a talk, or perhaps write a book, about the secrets of using BDSM to…

BDSM: Weaning Time

I sadly have to report, that due to unforeseen medical circumstances, I have to put our Adult Nursing Relationship on hold for the foreseeable future. And while the end of this particular era is most unwelcome, perhaps I can at least use our own tragic example to illustrate some finer points of BDSM philosophy so…

The Sub’s Side: Sex-Tape

A recent conversation on Twitter has me thinking about sex tapes. More to the point, sex tapes that I’ve been in. The story of my first one is an interesting one that I’d like to share. When I was in my early twenties I met a guy online. It so happens to be from the…

Stuffing the Turkey: #MasturbationMonday

Image Credit: Ms. Julia Steele Just another chapter in our ongoing d/s saga, you can find my other Masturbation Monday posts here, here, and here… As I awoke on Saturday morning I could immediately feel a powerful and uncomfortable pressure in my shorts, the proverbial ‘morning wood’ caused by a buildup of testosterone overnight. Nothing…

Daddy Philosophy: Leveling Up

I realize that I tend to use a lot of sports and gaming analogies when discussing BDSM. There just seems to me to be a lot of cross-over, we are all just players in the great game. There are amateurs and professionals, winners and losers, masters and wannabes… But yet at one time every master-of-the-craft…

Rant Time: Materialism

As much as I have lived the urban hip-hop street life I have never quite understood that culture’s obsession with materialistic concerns. I have no desire to be dripping in diamonds, or gold. I much prefer the labels of my designer clothes to be on the inside rather than plastered ostentatiously on the front. I…

The Sub’s Side: On Reactions

Reactions to situations can be interesting when you examine them. I have a particular reaction to threats in my relationship with my husband that in fact is not a bad one. Both of us benefit from it tremendously. We didn’t always realize that this is my natural reaction. It took many years of being together…

BDSM: My Journey

I originally wrote this story almost one year ago in the aftermath of some pretty tumultuous events, though it seems like a lifetime ago. It was never intended for publication, it was merely a way for me to make sense of the craziness that my life had become at that point. This is not in…

The Sub’s Side: Working It Out

My husband, who I refer to as Daddy, and I had a dying marriage. We hit rock bottom at one point but we managed to revive our relationship to the point that it’s now better than it ever was. The fact is that relationships are hard work and are constantly changing. They require both partners…