BDSM: Bio-hacking Your Relationship

As crazy as it’s going to sound, if I were ever to give a TED talk, it would probably be on this subject. I certainly don’t discount the possibility that at some point in the future, I might in-fact give such a talk, or perhaps write a book, about the secrets of using BDSM to hack the programming of our brains with hijacked hormones and neurotransmitters…

While I certainly acknowledge that those of you who share my interest in deviant and kinky sex most probably don’t also share my bizarre passion for bio-chemistry and endocrinology, but I assure you that taking an interest in these things might just change your life. I am going to try to establish some of the basics, for those less scientifically literate, so we’ll start with a few foundational truths:

  1. The physiological and emotional responses of the body are regulated and controlled by a variety of endogenous chemicals created in the body secreted by glands, organs, and tissues, which act on specialized receptor cells.
  2. There are several hundred of these chemical messengers that have been identified by science, the functions of some are better understood than others, but there is no doubt as to whether this is the system by which the body operates predictably.
  3. Psychoactive substances such as pharmaceutical drugs work by acting on already present receptors to inhibit or stimulate the body’s production of other transmitters or to to block reception of specific messages.

In short, just about everything that happens in our body and brain is the result of chemical interactions whether provoked by external stimulus, a foreign substance, or created within the body naturally.

As I grew and studied these sciences with no more than a passing layperson’s interest, I slowly began to formulate a few hypothesis. Of particular interest to me, was a hormone chiefly produced in the pea-sized hypothalamus region of the brain, called Oxytocin. Oxytocin is a chemical primarily concerned with the pregnancy and lactation functions of the female body. It does however interact with many diverse aspects of physical functioning, and emotional well-being, and consequently social interaction. If I told you there was a drug that could promote love, human-bonding, and sexual arousal, while simultaneously reducing anxiety and depression you’d probably ask me how to get some(or quip that it’s called MDMA). Oxytocin would seem to be a magical ‘love-drug’ elixir, yet it doesn’t seem to have the same emotional effects when administered as a drug…

So the natural course of my curiosity took over and reasoned that if Oxytocin needs to be stimulated naturally to be most beneficial, what would be the most effective way to stimulate it’s production. The answer that I arrived at was through stimulating lactation. The chronicles of our Adult Nursing relationship have been addressed elsewhere on this blog here and here, so I’ll not go into great detail about that here. My main intent with taking up lactation play into our regular schedule was very much specifically intended to promote the production of Oxytocin in both of us and this has very much played out how it would have been expected by the analysis of the science…

For a man however, Oxytocin is usually only produced in smaller amounts than women, it plays a role in the movement of sperm and the production of testosterone in men, it also acts on the prostate gland, which in high concentrations can cause benign enlargement of the prostate in older men. But aside from the potential for long term damage to my prostate and the constant lust and aggression that accompany elevated testosterone levels, the side effects are absolutely dwarfed by the benefits…

By hijacking Oxytocin and using it for our own nefarious purposes, we have been able to establish a chemically-enforced bond of maternal love between us, the sort of overwhelming unconditional love for each-other that heals our souls of the hurts of the past and the worries of the present while also turbo-charging our sex drives and enhancing our orgasms…

This is really just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to my holistic approach to bio-hacking. Oxytocin is merely one of the tools in my bag, but I’m not going to reveal all of my secrets yet, or else what reason would anyone have to wish to buy a book on the subject…

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  1. There are no words to show my appreciation!

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