BDSM: Adventures in Electro-play

Whenever I used to think about electricity, I would mostly associate it with fear. So whenever electro-play or e-stim would come up in the course of our periodic BDSM negotiations it was often I who was reluctant to engage. As time went on though I found myself softening my limit to the point where I met my wife’s position. We were pretty ‘meh’ about it, not a hard-limit, but not something we were actively interested in exploring. It sort of went along like that until a few months ago…

I’ve always known that my wife is a masochist, but in years gone-by that had made me uncomfortable to varying degrees, depending on the state of our relationship. In recent years though, re-embracing BDSM has really started to show me just how much very timely and specific pain is a fetish for her. A fetish is an activity that you need in order to experience sexual gratification, where a kink is something that you enjoy but could do without. So as my sub is a pain-slut, I’ve had to embrace my usually tightly guarded sadistic side in order to service her adequately…

So as I continue the search for ever more novel and efficient pain delivery systems, I found that I was perhaps being foolish to let some indifferent unease allow me to ignore the potential that responsible electro-stimulation play could provide to deliver messages to nerves without any lasting harm or damage…

Being the cautious, thoughtful, and calculated Dom I am, I had completed research to bring to the table when I started working e-stim back into the discussions. I did a quick-check-in and asked her bluntly even once, if she was still neutral about electro-play. And this is precisely how I roll. Over the course of many discussions is a new play-type introduced, slowly over months, this is the rather informal way we go about negotiation, we’ve been together forever, and we are still always constantly negotiating our kink-dynamic and play-style. If you ever think you’ve negotiated enough formally, you are wrong…keep constantly reaffirming and reevaluating your consent positions…

The problem with my methodical discussions, is that it didn’t take much of a stretch for my sub to figure out that an e-stim device was probably in the blacked-out bag that I brought home when she knew that I’d been out naughty Christmas shopping. But that’s also how we roll, neither of us are Christians, so we only make motions to the cultural-memes of Santa and gift giving for the holidays. I gave up the charade of keeping it a secret, but she wasn’t to actually receive her gift until Christmas…

This gave me about a two week window with which to taunt her with the knowledge, building up an anticipation, sometimes threatening to use it though not ever actually taking it out of it’s hiding spot until Christmas night. Because this was to be a first time trying out a new kind of play, I went with a basic, no-frills device, targeted at beginners. A cattle-prod style that delivers a static-shock, with a visible arc and audible crack. More a tool of psychological manipulation than a physical pain tool. As I began the series of tests that I go through with any new sensation toy, including shocking myself in the leg a few times, my wife expressed concern that she could hear not only the report of the prod, but my cries of pain from the other room…

I quickly tried to reassure her that it was mostly bark and just a little bite, zapping myself again. She was looking a little uncomfortable with the whole thing, I set aside the wand and went into an embrace that turned into a breast-feeding session as happens at some point generally during our foreplay, the calming effects of the oxytocin, to which I added the pleasure of a rather quick orgasm. As I stopped to get some lube I also picked up the prod, she could have bailed at that point but she didn’t. We were going to give it a fair try…

As I was working her clit I slowly and carefully delivered a zap to her pubic mount, she reacted with surprise, her clit retreated as though it were spooked a bit, I checked-in, and received a ‘not as bad as I thought’, which I took to be a green-light until further notice, continuing to work her clit while intermittently delivering shocks, asking for feedback on differing areas of her body. I don’t even know how many orgasm cycles we went through(a couple at least) before I ordered her turn over so I could get at her from behind.

I proceeded to fist-her while mixing up shocks and barehanded slaps to her ass while she squirted furiously, although I was busy in the moment, i couldn’t help but notice that the  excessive volume was noteworthy, the wet spot was colossal and much joked about on Twitter by both of us. I also had a strange sadistic orgasm and at one point randomly gave myself a shock directly to my right testicle just to satisfy my own curiosity…It was a fun scene, but from there I tossed away the prod and went directly into a thorough fuck session that was packed with pretty constant vaginal orgasms from mommy that is worthy of it’s own post…Great session all-around really…

If you do things the right way, you definitely increase the chances that a new play type will go over well and be an erotic adventure worthy of a blog-post, but that requires a continuing commitment to negotiation, communication, trust and care for the emotional and physical safety of all…

You should always spend way more time talking about things than you will actually doing things in BDSM…

 

 

 

 

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