A View From the Other Side: #MenstruationMatters

Menstruation Matters

I know there will inevitably be some up-in-arms that a cisgendered, heterosexual, male dominant freak would presume to speak on a matter so intimate and personal to women. As a man that has spent a lifetime in long-term intimate relationships with women, let me assure you that I have valid observations on the subject that come from the experience of many women. I will not however presume to speak for those women, so this post is really going to be about my experience. There are some who menstruate, and some who get menstruated-on…

As a young boy growing up in a household with only females, I had some peripheral exposure to the cycles of my family-members; I knew enough to know that when there were wrappers for feminine products in the rest-room waste-bin that I should probably mind my manners around my mother, who for reasons I didn’t yet understand had a propensity for being overly emotional during those times. I can even still remember the day when my older sister got her first period; I heard sounds of alarm coming from the bathroom and burst into the room to the sight of blood-stained pants and my sister crying only to be promptly screamed at for asking what was wrong. I was baffled…

Back in my youth, sexual education was a subject not taught in school until adolescence. Not having any understanding of these issues though nagged at me, so like any young sexually curious boy would never do(but probably should) I went to the library and checked out a non-fiction book on the subject of female anatomy and sexual health(This One from 1977). Although I have to admit that certain of the line-drawn diagrams sparked some level of nascent arousal in me, the information was life-changing. It helped me to understand not only the machinery and processes of the female body, but also to understand the psychological, emotional and hormonal components of the female sexual experience, information which has proved invaluable to the satisfaction I achieve in my own sexual experience.

My first experience with sexual intercourse came at the age of fifteen. My dominant girlfriend had been training me in how to pleasure a woman but I might have exaggerated about my exact level of experience when the subject had come up(okay I straight-up lied). So she didn’t think anything strange when she found herself a tad randy one afternoon while menstruating and initiated sex. Adding the sight of blood and gore to my already sizable performance anxiety predictably led to a less than memorable ‘first time’, but it taught me several useful lessons. The ones most poignant to this story were that ‘period-sex’ is enjoyable, normal, and desired by some women.

As a young man though not yet able to fully articulate but naturally understanding of my innate kinky desire to service and care-give in a fully immersive way, I took to a lengthy period of study and analysis of my partners throughout their cycles so as to better provide support to them. What I began to understand was the individuality of women’s physical and emotional needs whenever ‘Aunt Flo’ would make her monthly visit. I have been a victim of senseless rage, a shoulder to cry on, a friend to talk to, a gentle lover to be caressed by, and an object of intense sexual gratification all in the span of minutes…

I have seen how the same formulation of birth control can regulate and ease symptoms of PMDD for some women or intensify symptoms of PMS in others. I have experienced all of the same anxieties as my partner whenever a period is missed, or even just a few days late. I have faced it all with patience and understanding, asking only of my partners to tell me how they feel and how I can help…

But of course this is me talking, so some of you are probably starving for some gratuitous kinky details. It really hasn’t all been pretty though, considering my decades of daily experience and the tendency of women to menstruate for 17% of any 28 day cycle. I’ve inevitably seen more blood than your average trauma surgeon. I’ll spare you all the graphic descriptions of the horror-scenes that have left us looking fresh off the battlefield. But I can say that in my current dynamic, Daddy helps his girl to get through that trying time faster(or at least happier) each-month with a steady diet of the uteran orgasms that occur from our lactation play and a few powerful cervical orgasms, which my wife happens to be lucky enough to enjoy when I really work the right-spot…

But just as the Daddy taketh away he sometimes giveth back. The combination of lactation induced hormones and frequent and intense orgasms just as often brings on early, or brings back menstrual symptoms. A good Daddy however is hardly afraid of a little, or even a scary amount of blood, when it comes to taking care of his girl’s needs. The best way forward is really just to toughen up and bang it all out of her. Most women would never say it that way, or even speak about it at all, but I’ve yet to know one intimately that doesn’t want it done to them…

Sometimes in battle though you see things that you can’t ever ‘unsee’, and I’ve seen some things…But I have not ever and will not ever, shame or denigrate a woman for natural and necessary bodily processes over which they have no conscious control…

 

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